This morning I’ll be heading to close on our new house. EEK! Needless to say, we’re pretty excited to be spending the next several hours signing papers. Seriously.
But before I head out, I wanted to drop something here for you all to chew on.
Metaphorically speaking, of course.
In James Clears book, “Atomic Habits”, he discusses the power of small habits, and how they add up over time to make huge changes.
(By the way, I highly recommend this book. It’s an enjoyable read and full of practical nuggets of wisdom. Even though I’ve been preaching the benefits of small, sustainable habits for a long time, I learned a lot from this book.)
In his book, Clear talks about how winners and losers have the same goals.
He writes, “Goal setting suffers a serious case of survivorship bias. We concentrate on the people who end up winning-the survivors-and mistakenly assume their ambitious goal led to their success while overlooking all of the people who had the same objective but didn’t succeed.
Every Olympian wants to win the gold medal. Every candidate wants to get the job. And if successful and unsuccessful people share the same goals, then the goal cannot be what differentiates the winners from the losers.”
So what does then?
Small changes, developed into habits, and then built upon over time.
Let me be very blunt.
Your continued attempts to completely exclude entire food groups, restrict food choices, punish yourself for eating “bad” foods, and take on every possible healthy behavior at once in an effort to lose weight has never worked.
It has never worked, because it will never work.
To continue to make attempts in the same manner will continue to leave you frustrated, unhealthy and feeling like you aren’t cut out to be a healthier, leaner, or more fit person.
It’s a nasty cycle that keeps you unhappy and keeps you spending money on BS diets and products that promise “quick and easy”.
You have to stop the cycle.
You have to believe in yourself.
You have to believe that you are capable of investing in yourself.
That you are someone who deserves to feel good, and be healthy. And that the reason you might not feel that way is not because it might be true, but because an awful industry that claims to be invested in your health is really only invested in lining their pockets by preying on your desperation.
You can do this, but you have to change your habits. You have to develop new and healthier habits. You HAVE to. It’s non-negotiable.
Make very small changes. Do them consistently. You might think that taking on one small thing at a time sounds like too little, but ask yourself how taking on too much at once has worked out for you in the past. Has it got you anywhere? At all?
Guess what? Developing habits takes time. It’s hard work. It’s not easy.
But it’s doable. And it’s worth it.
If you want to work with someone, I’m here. This is what I do everyday-help people change their habits.
Either way, you have to do the hard work. You have to take small steps before you can take big ones. It sounds cliche, but it’s the only way you’ll ever do this long-term.